Life is a river in constant motion: career, relationships, health, personal goals. Every day we face both small and significant changes, but how many of us truly know how to flow with them, rather than resist them?
In my own life, I believe I have spent more time resisting than flowing. I had to practice a lot in order to change.
Fluxing is precisely the art of embracing the flow of life. It is not an escape from control, but a conscious choice to adapt, grounded in trust in our own inner resources.
Resistance vs. Fluxing: Why Fighting Change Keeps Us Stuck
Many of us live in a constant struggle against the natural flow of events. We hold on to reassuring routines — even when we do not really like them — we avoid risks, and we continuously negotiate with our comfort zone, which over time becomes a comfortable-uncomfortable cradle.
So what happens when we resist Fluxing?
Emotional exhaustion: we waste energy trying to control what cannot be controlled.
Missed opportunities: fear of the new keeps us anchored to outdated scenarios we have already seen and repeated.
Stagnation: life becomes a repetition of patterns, with no real evolution.
The real problem is not change itself, but the dysfunctional relationship we have with it.
Fluxing as a Neuro-Emotional Skill: Beyond Resilience
Fluxing is not simply resilience — “withstanding the storm.” I would define it more accurately as dynamic fluidity: the ability to reshape ourselves, learn, and move forward with and through challenges.
Sometimes I describe it as diving — or finding yourself — in a river, and swimming as well as you can in the direction of the current, without trying to fight it, trusting that it will take you somewhere new.
At its core, Fluxing requires three things:
Awareness of the present: recognizing the emotions connected to change — fear, excitement, confusion, disorientation — without judging them. Judgment becomes a convenient brake. Precisely because these emotions can be criticized, judgment gives us the perfect excuse not to listen to them and accept them.
Cognitive flexibility: letting go of old thought patterns in order to explore new perspectives. This is also the essence of coaching.
Trust in the process: we need to enter a slightly Zen mindset and accept that not everything is predictable or controllable, while understanding that we can still act with intention within the situation.
This is where Coaching and Neuro Emotional Facilitation™ — NEF™ come into play: two complementary methodologies that transform Fluxing from a concept into a tangible skill and lived reality.
Coaching and NEF™: Tools to Untangle Blocks and Activate Flow
Coaching: Mapping Change Through Concrete Actions
Professional Coaching offers a structure for navigating Fluxing, which I would summarize as follows:
Define the direction: what is the change you truly want? What are you afraid of losing?
Identify resources: which skills, inner resources, current values, or past experiences can support you in this process?
Create gradual steps: small daily actions that reduce the anxiety of “jumping into the unknown.” A goal is reached step by step, not all at once.
NEF™ is designed to support you in developing a more conscious and regulated response to change by helping you:
Recognize automatic reactions — such as anxiety, rigidity, or resistance — that may emerge during moments of transition.
Strengthen your capacity for flexibility, curiosity, and openness when facing uncertainty.
Use sensory and reflective practices to support calmness, clarity, and presence during change.
Three Strategies to Practice Fluxing Every Day
Everything can be trained in order to reach an adequate level of competence, and this universal rule also applies to Fluxing. Here are three simple actions you can start with.
1. The Open-Question Ritual
Begin the day by asking yourself:
“What can I learn today that I did not know yesterday?”
This mindset transforms unexpected events into lessons and keeps you open to learning. Again, it requires being a little Zen.
2. Micro-Experiments
Introduce small changes into your routine: take a different route to work, or try a new skill for ten minutes a day.
In doing so, you train your brain for change and adaptation. This is a fundamental point, and I will never stop highlighting its importance.
3. The Fluxing Journal
Yes, keeping a journal is always a good habit.
Record the situations in which you responded with fluidity or resistance. Then analyze them:
What worked? What would I like to improve?
Why Choose a Guided Fluxing Path?
Personalization: no two changes are the same. The path is structured around your needs and characteristics.
Not just Coaching: NEF™ uses different techniques to help you listen to your centers of thought.
Emotional support: you face transitions with a competent ally, not alone.
Your Potential Lives Beyond Your Comfort Zone
Fluxing is not about “enduring” change. It is about dancing with it.
Every wave, every unexpected curve, is an opportunity to discover parts of yourself you may not even have imagined.
So, as a coach, I will say this: stop anchoring yourself to the riverbank. Learn to navigate, and do not be afraid to do it.
Take action today. The flow of life does not wait.
If you are going through a period of transition — a new career, relational changes, health-related challenges — know that Fluxing is not only an innate talent. It is a skill that can be learned, cultivated, and improved.
I wish you the best in your ability to flow.